What is to be gained from insinuating oneself? Insinuation is the bread and butter of faux power. And I think it comes from an impetus to be taken seriously. I’ll show you! I’m a force.
Force, being the operative word.
There is no power in insinuation. Nothing to be gained by coming into a social group and attempting to alienate some folks from others. As the child of a minister, I can tell you that every church schisms. It’s in the nature of churches to fracture. Dogma and ideology lead to friction. People who believe they’re powerless decide to stage a coup. I’m gonna take you down, person who doesn’t really represent the things I said you represented yesterday! I’m going to take you down and take your place. I’ll show you!
What is it, exactly, that is being shown?
Insinuation is not power. Intruding on other people is drama. It might make one feel that one’s in control of a situation, Oh! You have to pay attention to me! I’ll come right up and insert myself in the conversation! I’ll do it until you acknowledge me. Look at my power!
What power? If you have to insert yourself in a conversation, you don’t have any power. You’re floundering, friend. And in the way of toddlers, you’re so starved for attention that you’ll accept it in any form. That isn’t power.
If you are a force, no one will ever need reminding. It isn’t an act of bravery to intrude. Spectacle is just sad.
Or, to put it more succinctly, as Mary loves to remind her clients: You are neither the bright star nor the black hole at the center of the universe.
Power doesn’t need a reckoning. That’s why it’s power.