Will Washington State let me get married next week? Probably not. We don’t know for sure, but word is the haters got enough signatures to insure Washington voters get to have a say in whether or not I’m allowed to marry my wife with the state’s legal acknowledgement. And it has been interesting how many comments have gone something like: Don’t we have real issues to focus on?
Real issues. Something more real than my right to marry the woman I love AND have the same rights and responsibilities for that commitment that straight people do. Something more real than the legal action my ex-husband has taken against me because he is convinced he and his wife are a legitimate family and my wife and I are a couple who just happen to hang out with a kid sometimes. And he is convinced, apparently, that there’s a judge in this state who agrees with him — that my wife is an “uninvited third party” — a judge who will sanction his relationship as more valid than mine, because the state recognizes his relationship as more valid than mine. A judge who will pretend not to get the code of “adult” and “inappropriate” as gay gay gay.
Only the state has granted me legitimacy. The state legislators voted for marriage equality. The governor signed it. My elected state representatives believe I should have full marriage rights under state law. My president believes I should have full marriage rights under the law. In fact, a clear majority of people in this country believe I should have full marriage rights under the law.
But probably not next week. Maybe in the fall, when the measure is on the ballot and we all get a say in whether or not my wife and I are as legit as my ex and his wife. Man, I wish this were a real issue. One of those issues that actually matters and affects people’s lives. Instead of my silly gay agenda to be treated like everybody else.