On losing

After watching the entirety of Ken Burns’ Baseball documentary — including the tenth episode that covers the Red Sox winning the 2004 World Series and the pervasive steroid scandal — what I find most compelling about this fascinating history is Roger Angell’s comment that over time devotees realize baseball is about losing and not about winning. I think the repercussions of that single sentence will wash over me for the rest of my life.

That’s a telling philosophy. To know that this thing you love is about losing. About everything associated with losing. Disappointment and perseverance. Heartbreak and error. It’s about the times things don’t go your way, rather than the times they do. Such a philosophy is the ideal way to guard against privilege. Against being a douche. Against this awful certainty that we’re owed anything.

Are we passionate about our failures? Are we? Inside the experience of losing is the desire for better. For improvement. I learned most about myself during a break up. I felt everything shatter and I thought, “When I build this again, I know what I’ll do differently.” You learn more when you lose. You learn what you took for granted, and what you do well, and what needs work. You learn to start again. Or, you know, you don’t. Maybe you just hang out there and get bitter. But I’m hopeful for you. I’m hopeful for all of us. Sometimes we get nearer to success than other times. Sometimes the best thing that happens all day is that awkward goodbye kiss that doesn’t quite catch our mouths. We should maybe put a little more into that next time.

4 thoughts on “On losing”

  1. Jill, I’m watching Ken Burns’ Baseball yet again on NetFlix on my iPad, and that Angell quote hit me like it hit you back in February. Unfortunately, I can’t find the exact quote on the Internet. Your reference is all I could locate after many Google searches.

    Do you have the exact quote?

      1. Thank you, Jill. I searched through my DVD’s of Baseball, found, and transcribed the quote: “I think that losing is what baseball is all about in the end. We think it’s about winning, but as we go on as fans, and even as players, we discover that there is much more losing in it. After all, the batter only succeeds one third of the time at best. And this runs very deeply in baseball. As the season goes along fans realize that their hopes are not going to be fulfilled. Once again they’re going to be heartbroken at the end.” – Roger Angell in Ken Burns’ Baseball

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Jill Malone

Jill Malone grew up in a military family, went to German kindergarten, and lived across from a bakery that made gummi bears the size of mice. She has lived on the East Coast and in Hawaii, and for the last seventeen years in Spokane with her son, two dogs, a hedgehog, and a lot of outdoor gear. She looks for any excuse to play guitar. Jill is married to a performance artist and addiction counselor who makes the best risotto on the planet.

Giraffe People is her third novel. Her first novel, Red Audrey and the Roping, was a Lambda finalist and won the third annual Bywater Prize for Fiction. A Field Guide to Deception, her second novel, was a finalist for the Ferro-Grumley, and won the Lambda Literary Award and the Great Northwest Book Festival.

Giraffe People

Giraffe People

Between God and the army, fifteen-year-old Cole Peters has more than enough to rebel against. But this Chaplain’s daughter isn’t resorting to drugs or craziness. Truth to tell, she’s content with her soccer team and her band and her white bread boyfriend.

And then, of course, there’s Meghan.

Meghan is eighteen years old and preparing for entry into West Point. For this she has sponsors: Cole’s parents. They’re delighted their daughter is finally looking up to someone. Someone who can tutor her and be a friend.

But one night that relationship changes and Cole’s world flips.

Giraffe People is a potent reminder of the rites of passage and passion that we all endure on our road to growing up and growing strong. Award-winning author Jill Malone tells a story of coming out and coming of age, giving us a take that is both subtle and fresh.

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A Field Guide to Deception

A Field Guide to Deception

In Jill Malone’s second novel, A Field Guide to Deception, nothing is as simple as it appears: community, notions of motherhood, the nature of goodness, nor even compelling love. Revelations are punctured and then revisited with deeper insight, alliances shift, and heroes turn anti-hero—and vice versa.

With her aunt’s death Claire Bernard loses her best companion, her livelihood, and her son’s co-parent. Malone’s smart, intriguing writing beguiles the reader into this taut, compelling story of a makeshift family and the reawakening of a past they’d hoped to outrun. Claire’s journey is the unifying tension in this book of layered and shifting alliances.

A Field Guide to Deception is a serious novel filled with snappy dialogue, quick-moving and funny incidents, compelling characterizations, mysterious plot twists, and an unexpected climax. It is a rich, complex tale for literary readers.

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Red Audrey and the Roping

Red Audrey and the Roping

Occasionally a debut novel comes along that rocks its readers back on their heels. Red Audrey and the Roping is one of that rare and remarkable breed. With storytelling as accomplished as successful literary novelists like Margaret Atwood and Sarah Waters, Jill Malone takes us on a journey through the heart of Latin professor Jane Elliot.

Set against the dramatic landscapes and seascapes of Hawaii, this is the deeply moving story of a young woman traumatized by her mother’s death. Scarred by guilt, she struggles to find the nerve to let love into her life again. Afraid to love herself or anyone else, Jane falls in love with risk, pitting herself against the world with dogged, destructive courage. But finally she reaches a point where there is only one danger left worth facing. The sole remaining question for Jane is whether she is willing to accept her history, embrace her damage, and take a chance on love.

As well as a gripping and emotional story, Red Audrey and the Roping is a remarkable literary achievement. The breathtaking prose evokes setting, characters, and relationships with equal grace. The dialogue sparks and sparkles. Splintered fragments of narrative come together to form a seamless suspenseful story that flows effortlessly to its dramatic conclusion.

Winner of the Bywater Prize for Fiction, Red Audrey and the Roping is one of the most memorable first novels you will ever read.

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